That's just WRONG

Here's a free tip. If you suffer from intestinal problems while staying at someone's house (especially family- I'll get to that more later), and you accidentally shart the bed, it's generally considered good manners, even if sick, to say something to the hostess, and at least make a token attempt to clean up the mess. It's very bad manners to continue to sleep in it, and leave it as some kind of secret gift when you leave. Very bad form. Not only will the hostess discover the mess, but she will definately curse you in your absence, and you might not get asked back. This includes family, I would suppose.

Now the parties in question aren't me. But close to me. And I must say that I consider the shitter's behavior downright passively/aggressive and nasty. Just rude. No excuse. And the shittee, well, she's left with a mess and hurt feelings. And I can hardly blame her. I would feel pretty unhappy too. It kind of colors a visit. And personally, I don't really want to see the contents of anyone else's ass- even family. For that matter, I'm not overly fond of seeing the contents of my own ass- but that's the cost of doing business, so to speak.

So, boys and girls, when visiting, if you get sick and make a mess, even if you feel downright nasty, please say something to someone- and if possible make an effort to clean it up. The alternative is just NOT nice.